Wild Kingdom

Etosha National Park, Namibia – August 2015

So often, the things that we seek in earnest are already with us. Right by the side of the road. The safari truck jerks to a halt and backs up. We were so focused on the road ahead that we didn’t notice the lioness. Camouflaged, but not hiding. Lounging. Languid and amused.

Two more become visible. A male and another female. The lion’s face rises above the grass. Proud to the point of comical. So sure of his own worthiness. It doesn’t matter how many males he battled, if any, to win his females. Success has everything to do with whether we feel we deserve it.

A slow, luxurious sweep of my eyes across this alien landscape. The monochrome grasslands. The salt pan that can be seen from space. So spectral and magnetic. That mesmerizing shimmer on the horizon. It’s as if, no matter how far you walk, you will never reach it. But the truth is that it already surrounds us.

I deserve this.

**Bay City, Michigan – Spring 1973

A little yellow house. The last house on the road. Nothing but open fields beyond. Images flicker on the television. Two men in a faraway place. A jungle in South America. I stare at the screen. The show is called Wild Kingdom. A man named Jim wrestles a tapir while an old man named Marlin talks. I want to be Jim when I grow up. In Bay City, there are no jungles or tapirs or people with painted skin. My little brother Billy presses his leg into mine, as if to anchor himself. He’s almost three years old, but does not speak.

My mother rocks my baby sister Penelope. “In Africa, the bugs are as big as birds. In China, the flowers are as big as a person’s face.”

I wish she would smile like that more often. “Can I go there?”

Her smile fades. She shuts off the television. “It’s too far away. Go outside and play.”

I stand at the edge of the field behind our little yellow house. A soft spring sun shines down. The smell of thawing mud fills the air. Across the brown expanse, the horizon ripples. A warm, dusty wind blows. It is the Kalahari Desert. But what is beyond? I step forward. Billy follows. Our boots sink into the mud. We push ahead. Exploration is never easy. Jim wouldn’t turn back. We sink up to our calves. The mud holds us prisoner. Quicksand!

Billy opens his mouth and wails. The sound of his voice is so unfamiliar that I panic.

My mother flies out the door, long brown hair streaming behind her. When she gets to the edge of the field, she bursts out laughing, puts her hands on her hips, and shakes her head. “Oh, it’s not quicksand. Calm down.” When she lifts me up, my little brown cowgirl boots stay in the mud.

It’s funny, the long ago images that persist. Those little boots didn’t survive that adventure. My mother washed them off, but the leather was ruined and they had to be thrown away. I was heartbroken. Curiosity comes with a price, but that did not deter the backyard expeditions.

The lioness rolls on her back in a playful frolic. A collective “Aw!” moves through the group.

I lift my hand to my mouth and sink my teeth in. One of the college boys gives me a look. I smile and shrug. “I’m just making sure that I’m really here.”

A conspiratorial smile in reply. “I pinched myself earlier. We’re really here.”

I shake my head and sigh. I did it. I really did it. Even with all of the strange and remote places I’d been, Africa always seemed out of reach. Somewhere deep inside, the dream never died. There is always a way. If you believe.

Childhood summertime afternoons. That sweet time before the lies people tell us become that which we believe about ourselves. My best friends were twin boys who lived next door. After the boisterous games of Marco Polo and Dark and Stormy Night, we’d float on inner tubes and stare up at the clouds. Drifting in the silence of endless possibilities. A life ahead to fill. They weren’t sure what they wanted to be, but they both wanted to marry Farrah. I was going to visit every country in the world.

Questions wandered into my mind: Where do birds go when it rains? What does a mango taste like? These provoked boy giggles. You’re so weird, Julie. The questions deepened: Where does the sky end? What is time? Fearful silence replaced the laughter. After that, I modified the questions: Snickers or Milky Way? Gene Simmons or Paul Stanley? Who loves Farrah more? I did not want to be banished from their pool. Okay, so some questions were best kept to myself. But the answers were out there. Somewhere. Far, far away from Michigan. I figured out that there were some that I’d never know the answer to. I’ve continued to wonder just the same.

What the hell is time, anyway? And what obligates us to agree on its existence? I wonder what my travel companions would say. I stifle an evil giggle as I picture the looks on their faces. Bite my lip. I do not want to be banished from the truck.

The internal journeys have mirrored the external in their intensity. I set the mind loose to gallop across the savanna, the steppes, the tundra. Landscapes exotic and vast and without obstruction. Unrestrained, fearless. Go. Seek out new frontiers in the wild kingdom. Theories, solutions, possibilities never considered. When they begin to warp into delusion, I herd them back to safer territory.

The power of the imagination.

There I am at twenty-three years old. Sitting in a dark basement. November gloom pressing against the tiny window. Jimmy Buffet on the stereo. Take me away from this abyss of broken dreams. Please. Behind closed eyes: iridescent aqua sea and palm trees. Sun on my face. Soft sand between my toes. During the song “Son of a Son of a Sailor”, the phone rang. It was an invitation to sail through the Grenadine islands with complete strangers. Months earlier, while I was still living in Los Angeles, I had responded to an ad for a travel assistant in a Bangkok newspaper. In the turmoil of my return to Michigan, I had totally forgotten about it. The man had already found an assistant, but there was room for one more on the sailboat. Would I like to join them? I accepted without hesitation. A crazy risk, but I had nothing left to lose.

On the last day, when we reached Mustique, news was waiting for me: my father had died. I used to think it was a cruel joke to receive that gift of light only to have it end with such unbearable grief. Now I know that it was the glimmer of light that kept me alive during the aftermath. Whenever my belief in miracles wavers, I conjure this memory.

Looking back, the exploration seems so effortless. The spontaneous opportunities, the unexpected money. I’ve been almost everywhere I’ve wanted to go. There is more to come: North Korea, Easter Island, and, yes, even Antarctica. They will all come to pass. How is it that some dreams materialize while others remain elusive? How to maintain that daydream softness? A “what if” without desperation. Such a delicate balance. It is okay to have everything that I want, in every facet of life. There is enough. If only I could feel the truth in this.

The roadside princess rises and strides towards the salt pan with purpose. She knows the way through the place without shadow. The purity of emptiness. Vessel of creation. What treasure lies within? My mind takes off in pursuit.

The second lioness follows and then the lion. Oblivious to his obedience. It would never occur to him to venture there alone. Even if he did, he’d be lost.

**The quicksand scene is an excerpt from the memoir. I remember the episode with the tapir, and I clearly remember this quicksand incident, but were they on the same day? This is one of the trickiest things about writing such long ago memories. It seems that it’s acceptable to splice some things together, as long as they both occurred.

76 thoughts on “Wild Kingdom

  1. You do such a beautiful job of weaving together your childhood memories with later life experiences. I’m sure we all make those linkages subconsciously and overtly, but you make it work in the most elegant of ways. It’s not just Michigan/Etosha, but a double helix of something that starts out as yearning and finding but keeps circling back upon itself to try to dig into how and why your life unfolded the way it has. Your powers of introspection are nonpareil!

    Love the ghostly photos, too. I feel thirsty!

  2. Your juxtaposition of events in time and place is very engaging. The similarities so obvious when viewed in this way. I hope you’ll continue to forge your own path, dear lioness. We will follow.

  3. Isn’t it interesting that one image leads to a memory that leads to another and another. We are the sum of our experiences, but it is in the interpretation of those experiences that wisdom comes. Another wonderful post – thank you…

  4. How bad that these kids mocked your curiosity. Where does the sky end? What is time? are great questions, and kids should be able to make them. I remember asking my mom how could people in Australia not fall off, not understanding gravity and thinking that we must be like Lego, with teeny tiny ‘bobs’ where our feet could stick in and not fall off… One of my favourite memories of childhood. If a child hasn’t this kind of curiosity, how will he grow up?

    • That’s an adorable memory. I think we would have been great pals. 🙂 The twins were relatively imaginative especially when it came to games. I don’t know what I would have done without them, because, for as unreceptive to depth that they were, they wanted me around. With a couple of exceptions all through school, girls didn’t and they were vicious about it. I didn’t dare voice anything that went on in my head around them.

  5. OMG we so have to hang out when I get back to the States. Or you need to come for a visit and sail with us. First, your photographs are amazing. I am sailing to Namibia in late January and I am already saying to myself ‘my photos will not look that good’. Second, I love the way you are writing your memoir, taking us back and forth across time and space. I am engaged every step of the way wanting more. Sheer perfection! If I wasn’t having such a good time being me, I would want to be you!

    • That is such a compliment. Thank you and right back at you. So good to hear you love being you. There is no higher achievement in life, I believe. Namibia is extraordinary. It’s impossible to take a bad photo there. You’ll see. Oh, we’ll hang out all right, wherever and maybe both places. I can just imagine the trouble we’ll get into.

  6. Your imagination is an adrenalin junkie, and you turn out to be Jim when you grow up. Maybe not wresting tapirs, but having adventures and wresting daunting challenges. And on the side, your alter ego, Marlin Perkins, gives commentary. (Although Marlin was never that poetic. What do you expect from an insurance guy?)

    How’s that for a fortune cookie?

  7. I’d forgotten how much I miss your musings and memories.

    Once again, thanks for letting us behind the curtain in the land of Oz

  8. I’m always happy to read you, especially when you tell things from the past. I hope we can all read the full memoir soon.
    Greetings from Belgium !

    • Thank you, Anne-Sophie. I’m on the hunt for the perfect agent who will lead me to the perfect editor (most important!) and perfect publisher. They are all out there, we all just need to find each other.

  9. A wonderful extract – I am looking forward to the completed work.
    It’s remarkable how the past sticks with us.
    Keep up the great work Julie. Not very active on WordPress at the moment – too many other things going on and for once the Uk is basking in endless sunshine.
    All th best, R

    • Thanks so much, Robin. Some of the scenes in the memory can be baffling. Are they random or is there a reason we remember? Good to hear you’re enjoying the summer. So am I. After a rough winter, we all deserve some fun in the sunshine.

  10. All the questions I’m always asking myself kept popping up in this post as if you’d read my mind. I’m loving the pieces of your memoir you’re choosing to let us peek into. As always your gorgeous Africa photos are beautifully paired with your words.

  11. A riveting read, Julie. You know how to weave that spell. 🙂 🙂 I still don’t know where the birds go and I’ve long since given up on time and the universe, but travel lures me still. So glad I saw your comment on Instagram about a recent post or I’d have missed this. WP had unfollowed you. I sometimes think social media is pointless but it has its place.

    • I haven’t figured out where the birds go, either. I suppose I could look it up on the internet, but I prefer to leave it a mystery. I will never give up on time and the universe. And travel, though it’s not an obsession anymore. 🙂WP acts up a lot. I have to periodically unfollow/refollow people to get posts to show up in the reader. Thanks for following the trail from IG. 🙂

  12. This post made me sit down and breathe. And then browse and I found Slovenia which is my country of origin. Only two posts from there but highly telling. Might search for some Italy next which is my country now.

    Heartfelt storytelling and reminiscing. Would read you in heaps.

    • 😂 Hahaha. Classic! Nothing like seeing those two being chased down by belligerent elephant seals with Marlin’s monotone commentary in the background. Thanks for posting this, Peb. Such nostalgia.😁

  13. It’s funny how since early age, who we will be when we grow up, shows up in the little things we do, or dream about.

    Excellent post. 🙂

  14. Moments in your writing are arresting, Julie. I loved the lion following the lioness into the place without shadow. The way your childhood dreams have stayed with you and enfolded your life. And the idea of that “daydream softness.” The agent-editor-publisher magic feels inevitable in this writing. You have set out across the salt pan, and it is clear to me that you know the way, which is more than interesting. It is helpful… It reminds me that, and hopefully others, too, that we also know the way–the way which is ours and ours alone…

    Michael

    • Your comment has restored my faith and hope in my purpose, Michael, and I’m truly grateful. Just when the way seems crystal clear, the shadows of self-doubt move in. There is much to be learned in the labyrinth of obscurity. You know this, of course. Those of us who have the courage to explore are here to guide each other through. Hope the summer is treating you well.

  15. Your stories are incomparable. An uplifting reading from beginning to end. I live in Venezuela and you move me to your walks. Congratulations.

  16. This is so beautifully written and I am in awe of how you weave the past and the present and even the future so seamlessly and seemingly effortlessly. Your post brought back some special memories of being in Namibia with my brother (who died a few years later). We did not have the thrill of seeing lions as you did, even though we went through a lion park and got stuck in it in our RV, with my parents. The lions were elusive. So thanks for sharing yours with me.

    Peta

    • Thank you, Peta. I remember you telling me about your brother, so this probably stirred up some bittersweet memories. Delighted I could share my lions with you. They were such a surprise to see in that vast, beautiful wasteland.

  17. P.S. I love the way you write about your mother and childhood moments. I feel as though i am right there with you…

    Once an adventuress, always an adventuress…. boots or no boots!

    Peta

  18. Your post has me intrigued and amazed by not only your writing and the way you write, but the photography as well. What an excellent read. Your writing holds so much incredible talent and gifts. Just beautiful!!! Thank you so much for sharing this …. a huge WOW from me!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  19. A astonishing encounter. Love the regal self-regard of the maile lion and the way they stroll into the vast emptiness with such poise and control.

    Also much enjoyed the shift from Africa to your childhood backyard.Like you with birds in the rain, I always wonder how swifts mate and sleep on the wing.

    • Watching them disappear into the salt pan, with her in the lead, is one of the most memorable things I’ve ever seen. everyone in the truck was silent. It was just so beautiful. That last line of this post drifted into my mind and I never forgot it. It was not easy to get them all in the photo, because she was so far ahead. I had one shot to do it.

      Good to hear you have kept your childlike wonder at the mysteries of nature. 🙂

  20. You show the the power of imagination and power of curiosity with this post, Julie. The power of imagination gives us courage, “A crazy risk, but I had nothing to lose.” ~ but it is your curiosity which makes it all possible. You take me back in time, the Wild Kingdom and Farrah were involved in many of my big dreams 🙂 Your writing wraps up the past, present and future into one flowing piece of art – and those first adventures as a child stepping just outside the front door is where it all begins. Wish you happy trails ahead, Dalo.

    • Imagination, courage, curiosity. Things you know so well and here you show me the connection. How they work together to create the magic of discovery. Thank you, Dalo.

      It seems we both grew up to become our own unique version of Jim. How about that? 🙂

      Cheers to dreams that give us no choice but to take that first step into the unknown.

  21. Hello Julie. We met in North Korea in 2016. I was the old man in the “father – son” duo and we were in the same tour group as you were. At that time I was impressed with the stories of your worldly travels, when we compared our experiences of various destinations. Namibia, (as well as South Africa, Zimbabwe, Zambia, Lesotho and Botswana) was also a highlight for us. My son and I did a 13,000 km road trip there, in 2010. The absolute best place to see truly “wild” wildlife is Etosha in Namibia, just before the wet season starts; approximately November. I have been reading your blogs and look forward to the new ones as they are posted. Your account of true personal experiences and feelings interwoven with the travel adventures, is unique and refreshing. I didn’t know you had written a book; I look forward to reading it.
    Cheers!
    Andy

    • Andy! Wow, so good to hear from you. I had no idea you were following my blog. Thank you. 😊 I don’t remember you as an old man, but as the coolest Dad in the world. And I totally remember talking about your Africa trip. Other than Namibia,I’ve only been to Capetown but I do suspect that Etosha is the best of all.

      North Korea will probably rank as the most bizarre and funnest trip ever. But the fun part was thanks to having the coolest companions ever. Hope you are doing great. Thanks so much for making your presence known here. Hello to Eric. I’m wondering if he has hit the remote Pacific islands yet…

  22. Hi Julie,
    Skip the memoir. Let’s go straight to the Screen play, girl !

    I was reading your posts last week but didn’t comment. And reading back over older blogs and the penny dropped. You have had a very interesting life. Going off to sail those islands with some random person, all the places you have lived and travelled too. Damn I can even hear the film score.I really loved the juxtaposition of this post and the slip back into your childhood. And the boots, oh the boots!

    I was reading back over some of the comments in an older post and someone was talking about you slipping out of their newsfeed, i think that has happened to me too, because i went to your blog because I thought you hadn’t posted for a long time (like me) but it was just that my feed isn’t picking up your posts.

    Keep writing.
    Louise

    • Thank you, Louise. I’ve taken some crazy risks, done things I’d totally discourage others from doing. My intuition always told me I’d be okay and it was right. Had some close calls on what should have been safer trips, and the bad things that happened were at home. Life has not been dull, for sure. Even though I’m back where I started, it still isn’t. It’s all about perception. Maybe I need to get some new boots and start all over. 🙂

      You’re not the only one who hasn’t been getting notified of new posts. Thanks for checking in. Warmest wishes —Julie

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